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Six Common Sexist Phrases We NEED to Stop Using Right Now

Even the most tolerant and accepting people say things without thinking that may offend others who hear them.  They have no intention to insult or offend and still they do.

Six sexist and anti-LGBT phrases that promote harmful gender stereotypes, and that we should stop saying right now.

Photo from the You Don’t Say campaign via Facebook. Even the most kind and tolerant people say things without thinking may hurt people who hear them. Here are six common sexist and anti-LGBT phrases we  seriously need to rethink. When we say them, we’re promoting harmful gender stereotypes.

Often we say these things because they are so widely used that they have become a part of the vernacular, people use these words and phrases without thinking, it’s just the way we express an idea that often has nothing to do with the words we are using.  How often do we hear someone who is an otherwise good person who is understanding and caring say something like “that’s a really retarded thing to say?”  That person would never say to a mentally challenged individual, “you are a retard” yet he feels no such restraint when telling another that he has just made an incredibly stupid statement.

Of course there are the insensitive clods who do use these offensive and demeaning words no matter what the situation, the person who will look someone with Down Syndrome in the eye and tell him he is a “retard” but they represent the minority, most are not that callous and ignorant, we just don’t think before we speak and we use the terms that we hear all the time.

What we really need to do is to train ourselves to think before we speak and not use terms that may be offensive or insulting to those who we would never intentionally offend or insult.  We can make a difference one person at a time if we just commit to do that before we use terms like those below.

The six sexist and anti-LGBT phrases are:

(1) “Man up,” (2) “Don’t be a pussy;” (3) “B*tch;” (4) “No Homo;” (5) “That’s So Gay;” and (6) “Tranny.” And it would be good if we all stop using the word “retard,” too.

One of six sexist, anti-LGBT phrases we shouldn't say: 'Tranny.'

Photo from the You Don’t Say campaign via Facebook.

And seriously. If you’re still saying “no homo,” please stop it right now.

One of six sexist, anti-LGBT phrases we shouldn't say: 'No Homo.'

h/t:  San Francisco Globe

About Bob Cull

I'm retired and live in the Finger Lakes region of Upstate NY. I have strong opinions and my political bent has not changed since I was in high school. Most of my family thinks that I need to find a "real" hobby to fill my time in retirement, but I am content to share my opinions with others and exercise my "right" as a cranky old retired dude to express my views--which are based on many years of real world experience.
  • ValeriaT

    Nothing can upset or offend you unless you choose to allow it to do so. Therefore, if some words or some object offends or upsets you, it is YOUR problem and no one else’s. There is no such thing as a constitutional or legal right not to be offended. Get a thicker skin, man up, don’t be a pussy, etc etc. (Yes, I just used two of the phrases on the list. Sue me.)

  • thesecondarything

    I’ll still say all of these things because, well, I can say whatever I want. If people are that emotionally immature that they care about little words, then they might be the ones with the problem. Oh, and for the record, ‘gay’ and ‘queer’ were considered derogatory at one point. I guess eventually ‘nigger’ will just be another word for a black person, huh?

    And I’m sorry, you can be born with the brain of a female/male when your body is the opposite, etc., but that doesn’t make you want to wear a dress and lipstick. It’s society that does that, and if you think cutting off your dick is not fucked up in some way, then again, you have the problem, not me.

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  • B A Dragon

    Thank you Bob. There are many you missed, but it is a great start.

    • Bob Cull

      We all say things without thinking, I know that I am not innocent of it, very few of us are, but if we try to keep in mind how something that we say without meaning any harm sounds to someone who may be closer to it we can start to make this a better world. :)

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  • Anirban (aka Abner) Bhattacharya -aka Abian Bhattacharya

    It’s behavior that defines. Even if orientation doesn’t change, it’s best for gays/lesbians to be celibate just as it’s best for a person with tobacco orientation not to smoke. Behavior including sexual behavior can be learned. If a boy is homosexually raped repeatedly, it’s more likely he will do gay conduct in adulthood because sex abuse damaged his mind and caused him to behave in ways he wouldn’t. If the boy had not been molested, then it’s less likely he would do gay conduct in adulthood. While they have not conclusively proven same sex behaviors are genes-if that is true, it would be same as alcoholic gene.

    With ‘homophobic’, homophobia is telling truths which offend homosexual groups. With what mental health experts say on homosexuality, Mainstream psychology/medicine is not to be trusted on gay/lesbian topic and too many people accept what is said w/o challenging or having doubts. You can pay experts to say things which agree with gay/lesbian agenda and that is has happened with psychology/medicine since 1973-experts can say things to support gay agenda or any agenda. Truth with homosexuality is any ideas, speculations and truths which offend homosexual groups is condemned as homophobia as there’s alot of ideology on this. With repair therapy for homosexuals/lesbians. Repair therapy for gays and lesbians who want to be straight must be available just as repair therapy must be available for a drug junky who wants to become clean. Yes, proof burden is on repair therapists, but if you aren’t going to have repair therapy for homsexuality/lesbianism, then you may as well not have repair therapy for drug junkyism or drunkardism, because it often fails.

    Finally, sex change maimings which is mutilating some1 to make them fake members of opposite sex is comparable to trying to make a man a fake animal because he thinks he is an animal trapped in a human body. Most feminists are not speaking against this. 1 would hope that feminists would oppose the mutilation that happened to Chastity Sun Bono as feminists have spoken against Female Genital Mutilation which happens in some nations. Transexuals are mutilations which no Dr. should take part in, yet most feminists are not condemning this female genital and breast mutilation as what happened to Chastity S. Bono where her healthy breasts were mutilated, dangerous hormone shots and her genitals mutilated.

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  • Christopher

    Doo you know where the term ‘rule of thumb’ comes from? Back in the day a man was allowed to beat his woman with a stick, as long as it was no thicker than his thumb.

  • Chrisco

    I’m a very well educated liberal, but I will never stop saying things are gay and retarded.

    Because sometimes they just are.

    • BLH

      I always tell everyone, rather proudly too, I’m such a left leaning liberal that I don’t even have a right side & I, too, am rather well educated & I don’t ever say those things. Perhaps I’ve found other words in their place or I’m just so perfect I never find the need! Yeah right. I think maybe as a bona fide adult I’ve found other words/phrases in their place. I honestly don’t know why or when but hopefully you, too, will find better words. I confess I’ve never heard “tranny” before I read this just now. I know! I’m totally out of touch! Except where it matters. I suspect the people you associate with do the same.

    • Michelle

      Hopefully you will reconsider some day. One of the students at our local high school, herself someone with a cognitive disability, gave a speech about the use of the word r**ard and how it made her feel and how it impacted her opinion of the person using the term. It was a stunning speech that she originally gave at a Best Buddies benefit and then was asked to repeat in a few other venues. Honestly, I don’t know how anyone would be able to use the word again if they had a chance to listen to this young lady’s words.
      Technically retarded simply means “stunted”, but we cannot deny it has become used in an insulting context in our society. I work with children with disabilities, mostly too young to be aware of the issue yet. But I can tell you the word has an impact on their families. Just remember if you choose to continue to use the word, that you can never know if the people around you happen to love someone in their family with a cognitive delay/challenge.

      • paul fredine

        retard is totally unacceptable. but ‘gay’? hell, i’m gay and if i see someone dressed in feathers and sequins….what else am i going to call it? the usage when it’s applied to something simply because it’s strange or different? why would anybody choose to use ‘gay’ as a description is just stupid, at least to me. but it just goes to show more about the person using the word than it does for whatever they’re trying to describe. i only wonder why the ‘n’ word wasn’t included on that list? i don’t care who uses it or the reason they use to try and justify it, it’s probably the one word that offends me more than any other.

        • Michelle

          I assume the n-word was not included because it is generally accepted as socially vulgar, while some of the other terms still get used without a second thought.
          I think the use of “gay” in a negative light will fade away in the coming generation. My 9 year old son has asked what it means and I explained it matter-of-fact and he accepted it without another thought. It helps that this current millennial generation has been able to live openly. So for kids today (unless they are living in an ultra-prejudiced household) it is just part of life. One of our friends who is gay is in a band with my husband and my boys think he is the coolest guy on the planet. Since they know he is gay, I don’t think anything they might hear on a playground from less enlightened factions of society, will ever influence them to think negatively about the term “gay”.

  • Kurt B

    Hey, even Pres. Obama slipped up occasionally (remember ‘Special Olympics?). And ‘bitchin’ used to mean ‘bitchin good time’ in 1960’s surfing lingo. You can shun certain words but their replacement will quickly absorb the original connotation. ‘Retarded’ was replaced by ‘mentally handicapped’ which was replaced by ‘mentally challenged’ or ‘developmentally disabled’ and they all eventually say the same thing. The word police need to take a vacation.

  • http://gravatar.com/bobkincaid Bob Kincaid

    Nice start.

    Might you encourage folks to ditch the usage of “TeaBilly?”

    Americans in Appalachia are just as American and just as intelligent as the rest of the country.

  • Patriot

    Thanks for a list of words and phrases that get under the thin skin of leftists. I will add them to my vocabulary of other words and phrases that drive politically correct/DemocRATS/liberals/leftists/progressives/statist/socialists/Marxists/Leninists/Stalinists nuts. Every chance I get I will rub it in which won’t be hard because one thing about the left, they are a sensitive bunch who prefer to dance in fairy prairies while high on various drugs instead of being real men and women.

    • Michelle

      Trust me, this doesn’t surprise us one bit.

    • Alex

      Wow! Thank you for taking my gender and sexuality seriously. It’s really good to know that being a decent person and being aware that someone’s sexuality and gender are not insults require being a liberal or democrat, regardless of the fact that sexuality and gender cross the entire world, of which Republican and Democrats do not. It is really nice to know that some people are willing to invalidate my entire being so that they can really get at those decent human beings, right?

    • Radar

      I see that patriotism is still the last refuge of a scoundrel.

    • Christopher

      Believe it or not few people care what you think….your ignorance is obvious

    • CrabbyJ

      It will only get under the skin of some leftists, others of us will wonder why you’d actually try to go out of your way to say potentially offensive things when it’s not necessary…

      …then, we’d slap our foreheads, because we’d remember that you guys do it because you’re mind-boggingly stupid.

      Of course, if we were so inclined, we could immediately stop whatever jackassery you were executing, no doubt smug and self-satisfied, with what you think is your clever repartee (you know? like how you think saying “Moochelle” would’ve earned you a seat at the Algonquin round table?) by reminding you that:

      A. It’s PRESIDENT Obama


      B. He won a second term.

      It instantly invalidates all your arguments, it reduces you to a frothing at the mouth, gibbering idiot, rage-monster (in all other cases, you’re just not all frothy), and it’s just plain good old-fashioned fun to watch how quickly you fall apart when the tables are turned…and how easy it is to turn them.

      • paul fredine

        well said!!!

    • Bob Cull

      Thank you, (Un)Patriot(ic), it pleases me no end that I do not measure up to what an ignoramus such as yourself considers a “real” man. It validates what I already knew — that I am many times more of a man than you could ever dream of being. What you drooling knuckle walkers call a man is really a pathetic little boy so insecure in your own manhood that you have to rely on ridiculing others to “prove” it to yourself.

    • fcolleton

      So your reaction is to act like a spoiled 9 yr old bully? Your parents must be so proud.

    • manni

      Wtf it means what the f*ck

  • paul fredine

    i can agree…to a point. maybe i’m just from the time when ‘dynasty’ ruled and joan collins (as alexis) used the word with such abandon, but ‘b*tch’? we always used to say “b*tch…it’s not just a word, it’s a lifestyle’. if someone said to me ‘you’re such a b*tch!’, i always said ‘thank you!’. granted, it can be overdone, but there are sooo many others that should be dropped.

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