All vertebrate animals start out as female in the womb; and female we would stay, if nature didn’t decide to make some of us otherwise. Those of us modified from females in that myriad of ways may at some point ask ourselves: “Why? To what end? There must be a POINT.” Well, there is one — but it isn’t to do something as utterly, pathetically, and sickeningly DOUCHE as what A Voice For Men founder Paul Elam just did. Cosmopolitan Magazine brings us this story.
Paul Elam is impotent. Yes, Paul Elam, the guy in the picture just above this, is completely impotent (also with rage.) As a self-described “Men’s Rights Activist,” or MRA, Elam specializes in flaccidly spearheading the good fight against feminism. Having studied psychology at the University of Houston, Paul long ago came to the realization that feminism in any form wasn’t so much about women seeking social parity with men, but, in a word…FEMINAZIS!!!
Yes, Rush Limbaugh probably is one of AV4M’s 16,000 worldwide followers, at least a third of whom are in that last bastion of sophistication and civilization, Australia. The approach is pretty straightforward, as it is with many conservatives: Distribute hate speech, while claiming to be the victims of of hate speech. Blame other people for doing the exact thing you’re doing. Then claim you don’t hate anyone, you’re simply an advocate for the self-esteem, rights and protection of your own group.
So, AV4M isn’t “mysogynistic,” any more than any other self-proclaime Mens Right Activists. Nevermind the fact that the Southern Poverty Law Center has already flagged the AV$M website as a major vector of hate speech and mysogyny:
“A Voice for Men is essentially a mouthpiece for its editor, Paul Elam, who proposes to “expose misandry [hatred of men] on all levels in our culture.” Elam tosses down the gauntlet in his mission statement: “AVfM regards feminists, manginas [a derisive term for weak men], white knights [a similar derisive term, for males who identify as feminists] and other agents of misandry as a social malignancy. We do not consider them well-intentioned or honest agents for their purported goals and extend to them no more courtesy or consideration than we would clansmen [sic], skinheads, neo Nazis or other purveyors of hate.”
Great point, Paul. And what kind of “hate” might that be? Say…declaring October to be “Bash a Violent B*tch Month.” Of course, he precedes the notion with utmost sagacity, a paragraph-long explaination of “Juvenalian Satire.” And “juvenile” is exactly the right word for it:
“In the name of equality and fairness, I am proclaiming October to be Bash a Violent Bitch Month.
I’d like to make it the objective for the remainder of this month, and all the Octobers that follow, for men who are being attacked and physically abused by women – to beat the living shit out of them. I don’t mean subdue them, or deliver an open handed pop on the face to get them to settle down. I mean literally to grab them by the hair and smack their face against the wall till the smugness of beating on someone because you know they won’t fight back drains from their nose with a few million red corpuscles.
And then make them clean up the mess.”
He then proceeds to make reference to women as “bullies,” and refers to Oprah et al as the “c*ntosphere.” But, you know…not hate speech. “But, wait…that’s not so bad,” you might be saying. “What’s the harm in being an ultimate douche? It’s just talk.” That’s not quite enough to catapult Paul into the hateful, Hellbound Douche-O-Sphere yet, is it?
Prepare for launch in 3..2…1…
Yes, that just happened.
The White Ribbon Campaign came about in 1991, started by Canadian men following the Ecole Polytechnique shooting in Montreal. It started when anti-feminist hatemonger (and Paul Elam role model) Marc Lepine entered the school with a gun, and began separating a class of students into male and female. He lined the women up against the wall, and called them “a bunch of feminists.”
He then opened fire, massacring 14 women, and injuring a further 10 women and four men.
The mass murder ignited a firestorm in Canada, driving the entire country into a powerful anti-domestic-violence and women’s rights movement that continues to this day. As of this year, domestic violence is at 7 percent in Canada — roughly 1/3 of what it is here.
That’s due in no small part to the White Ribbon Campaign, a public awareness campaign now spread through over 60 countries that asks men and boys to wear white ribbons as “pledge to never commit, condone or remain silent about violence against women and girls.”
And THEN…a d*ckless douchebag showed up.
Earlier this week, Paul Elam sleazed his way into registering “WhiteRibbon.org,” a site set up to trick people into putting money intended for the real White Ribbon directly into his bank account. Actually, not his pocket, or so he claims.
Initially, the opening paragraph on Elam’s fake site claimed that the real site was fake, and that this was where visitors should go to make donations to the charity. However, after the story broke in Cosmo a couple days ago, the opening paragraph has since been changed to this:
“WhiteRibbon.org is owned and operated by A Voice for Men. After receiving many veiled legal threats, we will be routing all donations here to a legal war chest to defend our rights.”
Hear that! Pay them to defend their “rights!” It’s not about money at all…it’s about the RIGHTS!
Wait…we’ve heard this one before.
That’s right. The NRA.
Of course, it’s not as though anyone would be much fooled into believing that Elam’s site is exactly representative of a “world class charity” devoted to helping women. Since the Cosmo article, it’s devolved almost entirely into a sad kind of hate-blog written by middle-aged, “Low-T” whiners who lost their Viagra.
But, the REAL White Ribbon isn’t just lying back, barefoot and pregnant as God intended. They issued this scathing retort against Elam’s sickening attempt to divert funds to the exact people they were fighting against:
Today, White Ribbon (www.whiteribbon.ca) became aware that a “so-called” men’s rights group has launched a copycat campaign articulating their archaic views and denials about the realities of gender-based violence.
Their vile sentiments—which include disparaging comments about women’s shelters and victim blaming survivors of rape—are completely incongruent with our values at White Ribbon.
Their misguided attempts to discredit others only make clear the extent to which they see the success of our equality-driven, evidence-based, ally-focused work on gender justice as a real threat to their ill-informed, isolated views on this issue. This latest example is clear evidence of their insincerity and lack of commitment to developing compassionate solutions for the issues they claim to care about. It also showcases their real focus: attacking, harassing and directing anger towards others. …
Allies and supporters: Do not to be fooled by this copycat campaign. We are exploring all of our options, but we will not be engaging with this group in a public screaming match. They can remain a shrill minority. We will continue to engage with the vast majority of men who believe in gender justice, and want to be part of the solution.
A Personal Note from Yours Truly to Paul Elam, and all Men’s Rights Activists:
Of course, men do have some legitimate grievances within the system. We are often unfairly biased against in custody hearings and divorce settlements. Men very rarely get the benefit of the doubt in domestic violence cases, even when the violence was clearly on both ends. And the media does have a real problem portraying men negatively in sitcoms and comedies, almost unilaterally portraying them in ways that if applied to women, would trigger screaming protest marches in front of Studio headquarters. There has been a degree of overcompensation in some areas.
But that really isn’t the point.
Which brings us back to our first point…why nature modified men from women to be what we are. Nature modified us to be taller, to be bigger and more muscular than women. We have larger hearts and bigger lungs to move oxygen more quickly to those muscles. We have narrower hips to run more efficiently. Nature made us aggressive, territorial, and single-minded.
Physically, a man’s defining characteristics speak to the one, single job he was modified by nature to do. That’s his responsibility; that is the only right he needs to worry about. And that right…that job and that PRIVILEGE is
To protect and provide for women and children…or die trying.
So, to all you “Men’s Rights Activists” out there; to all you whiners, you misogynists, you people who hate those you were made to protect; you who see your strength as license to dominate, instead of evidence of responsibility; you weaklings, who can’t take a punch from a girl and leave without crying; all of you pathetic little b*tches, you limp-wristed, useless, selfish, simpering, whimpering primadonnas, stewing in the hairy inferiority complex of your own ethically inverted c*cks…I’m going tell you something your daddy should have long ago:
“Quit your f*cking WHINING, and do your god-d***ed JOB.“
(P.S. Nobody comment on Paul’s little support group…he’ll block you after the first mean thing you say. MANLY MEN!)