It seems there has been a rash of stories in the news recently about tipping. Most of us are familiar with the process — an age old technique use by restaurant owners to avoid paying a living wage. Typically a person gets his check, quickly calculates 15 or 20% in his brain, and adds it to the bill as a gesture of appreciation to the server. It’s a social convention that has existed for a very long time and it’s not likely to go away any time soon.
But lately, more and more customers are deciding to use the “tip” as an opportunity to make an unwanted statement about religion, morality, or some combination of the two. Recent reports cited a popular fad for religious customers of leaving fake $10 bills with printed bible verses instead of a monetary tip. Another story a few weeks ago recounted a case in which a young male server provided what the customer himself termed “excellent service,” but was stiffed because of his alleged sexual orientation. Coincidentally, the majority of these stories involved religious messages and biblical admonitions against immoral behavior.
According to a piece in today’s Daily Grind, the latest example of this phenomenon occurred at the Gallop Asian Bistro in Bridgewater, NJ.
While nothing was said regarding the quality of service from the waitress identified as Dayna M, the check for the meal came to $93.55. Dayna was suspecting there might be some issues when the wife/mother in the party responded to her introducing herself with, “Oh I thought you were gonna say your name is Dan. You sure surprised us!” Dayna kept her composure and went ahead, providing friendly and prompt service. Expecting a $15 or $20 tip, she was understandably upset when she picked up the signed credit card receipt and read this note:
“I’m sorry but I cannot tip because I do not agree with your lifestyle & the way you live your life.”
When she got home, Dayna posted this on the Have a Gay Day Facebook page:
I am THOROUGHLY offended mad pissed off and hurt that THIS is what her kids will grow up learning and that I served in the Marines to keep ignorant people like them free. Sorry lady but I don’t agree with YOUR lifestyle and the way you’re raising your kids but you didn’t see me throwing that in your face and giving you shitty service. Keep your damn mouth shut and pray we never cross paths again.
OK, maybe she was a tad more than “understandably upset.”
We’re hoping this detestable new fad will end today, but hate and discrimination is a tough virus to kill, especially in some self-proclaimed “disciple of Jesus.”